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La Douleur Exquise

La Douleur Exquise  –  {French}  literally means “the exquisite pain.”  It comes from a medical term which defines a pain that morphine cannot dull.  It’s meaning has become something used to describe that indescribable pain of being hurt by the one you love.   [Psychology Today

1. [French] The exquisite pain of theg someone you can never have but you know you will still try to be with them. It’s like drug effects… 

La Douleur Exquise 

Teetering on the edge of ‘us.’ 
Even with our dub highious start.
Proclaiming my love to only you.
Whispers of pleasure, longings
no other lover will hear.
Time spent laughing,
penetrates my thoughts.
Conversations replay in my mind.
It is madness.
Disturbing how you leave me
so unsure, so unclear.
Knowing what ‘we’ share
is magical.
How angry words spoken
didn’t tear me from you.
You are as much
a part of my life as air.
Wish I hadn’t already seen
how with no hesitation
you can turn, walk away
from me.
Saying there is no ‘we’, ‘us’,
is devastatingly harsh.
@donetta sifford 1-31-2013

{Author’s Note… This poem was written in 2013 so I seen a lot of revisions that should be made. I posted it here the way I discovered it a short while ago. 


Kill Your Darlings or Kill Your Dreams

I have poured over writing advice until I’m wondering should I just stop writing?!?! 

     I cannot be the only person/writer that has been unsure of how to begin submissions or should I keep submitting? I have a better understanding of researching which Lit Magazines I want my work in. I learned a lot from my 1st Poetry Group/Community on Google+  which was actually called “Poets of G+.” 

     I learned that wanting to be published to validate my status as a writer, is normal. The desire to be published can cloud ones judgment on where to submit work.  Just like when I was 19 and submitted a poem for an anthology, was accepted, and if I paid $75 I could actually own the anthology I was published in. 

 So, somewhere in the bottom of my hope chest is an anthology I paid for with a poem only a child could write and my name among 100’s of other writers that were better or worse. I learned quickly that perhaps I should have been paid for entering a contest, winning, being published, instead of me buying the book. Even a free hardback copy of the book would have sufficed. 

Keep in mind, this was 1995. Yes, I’m 41 years old and even though I’ve written short stories and poetry since I can remember, I have reached a point in my life where I’m willing to do the extra work.

I am using a smartphone for several reasons but I believe I now need to get my computer up and running. Which means calling to get WiFi or internet services turned on. Meanwhile, I’ve been going to different sites, reading up on submitting. 

I finally have some poems I decided to submit. Received my second rejection from The Sun. I am pouring over how to format, how to write a cover letter, how to word my 3rd person bio, and even how to format manuscripts using a smartphone.

I have to say, my heading was dramatic. I won’t ever stop writing, and I believe I’m ready to spend time submitting. Even if this means waiting for Internet services so I can make sure my formatting is correct.

Writing advice is everywhere. I run into a lot of the same advice worded differently. I finally found time to focus on my work and found some great sites and blogs loaded with information on where to publish, submitting work, and other helpful resources. The links below have helped me not kill my darlings or dreams.

Trish Hopkinson has became my “go to.”

Areogramme Writers’ Studio is awesome… Especially advice from Steven King.

Writer’s Relief has so much information, advice, and resources. I would definitely spend time here.






My 1st Erasure Poem

How To Stop Time

This is the excerpt I chose from “How to Stop Time” by Matt Haig


[Image from Page 3 of “How to Stop Time” by Matt Haig. Most of the image has been blacked out to read:

Santa Barbara

years bored


Heaven with traffic.

Drank wine.

Going mad,

panic attacks.

Lived centuries.

Witnessed war,


Waking up

my heart going crazy.

Feeling trapped

inside myself.


Los Angeles

calmed you.]

This is my first try at Erasure Poetry for Yeah Write.    I only use my mobile phone so I didn’t have a lot of options to black the words out. I’m not tech savvy enough to use another.

My Best Year Ever

The Prompts:

  1. The last time my heart melted was because…
  2. A list of 15 ideas to make this your best year yet.
  3. Write about how you would spend the perfect Snow Day.
  4. Write a blog post inspired by the word: free.
  5. Share something that you worked on this week.
  6. Share a favorite recipe you have been loving


1. Meditation

2. Yoga

3. Journaling

4. Walking 

5. Working more on my goals with my Perfectly Posh business.

6. Sleeping more at night

7. Write a plan on exercise: I’m not trying to lose a lot of weight… Just be more tone and in shape.

8. This may fall in with # 7 but eating 3 meals a day and eating healthier

9. Getting my license back. 

10. Finding an inexpensive car.

11. Return to blogging on here at least every other day instead of every other month

12. Submitting more of my poetry

13. Stop procrastinating; on everything

14. Making “To Do” list and actually doing the things on the list

15.  Going to a dentist to get my teeth fixed would make this the best year ever for sure.

                       What can you list to make this your best year ever? You can link over to Mama Kat’s Losin It Writer’s Workshop. 





FREE Poetry Contest – $500 Prize, DEADLINE: Feb. 2, 2018

This sounds like a great chance to submit your poetry! Thanks to Trish Hopkinson for all her effort in finding places that are calling for submissions.

Trish Hopkinson

zocolo2017Zócalo Public Square is currently running a free poetry contest with the theme of “Place.” Poets may send up to three poems to

Since 2012, the Zócalo Public Square Poetry Prize has been awarded annually to the U.S. poet whose poem best evokes a connection to place. “Place” may be interpreted by the poet as a place of historical, cultural, political, or personal importance; it may be a literal, imaginary, or metaphorical landscape. We are looking for one poem that offers our readers a fresh, original, and meaningful take on the topic.

Zócalo Public Square is a proud affiliate of Arizona State University and is a not-for-profit Ideas Exchange that blends live events and humanities journalism “committed to translating ideas to broad audiences and to engaging a new, young, and diverse generation in the public square.”

Click here for Zócalo Public Square Submission Guidelines.

DEADLINE: February 2, 2018


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